He should, She should

He should pay for our meals

He should plan all the surprises 

He should be the one buying me gifts

He should drive me around

She should cook for me

She should clean up the place

She should do my laundry  for me

Who said who should do what, who made up the rules for your relationship? Shouldn't your relationship be yours and yours to decide?

Nowadays, relationship goals are pretty messy don't you think. Why is opening the door for the lady a "relationship goal" ? Isn't that what a gentlemen is, I mean you don't have to but don't you feel like you should? Why is buying your lady or man a gift a "relationship goal"? Who said picking up the bill is a man's job? (but that doesn't mean you don't guys, don't be stingy la) Who said only girls deserved flowers? Who said girls should do all the cooking and cleaning? 

In this generation, sexism is a crime. All of us want equality, women fight for their rights and men fighting to keep theirs. It's a sensitive topic really. But what happened to love? Aren't you in a relationship cause you feel strongly for each other? I personally feel the need to spoil my man, with food, gifts, surprises and even the smallest things like random pop ups at his place. My father always told me not to let him pick up my bills cause I am a strong independent woman and I shouldn't rely on other people. But I let him sometimes cause it's sweet hehe! I'm not gonna lie, when he willingly does things for me, it makes my heart flutter. It matters a lot in showing how much he cares for me but no, it is not his obligations to do so.

There isn't anything wrong with wanting to do something for your significant other. Don't let the stereotypical society tell you what not to do! If you love them, make them happy with any way possible! If you're going to love someone, treat them well. Treat her the way you would want your sister & mother to be treated. Treat him how you would want your dad & brother to be treated. Do things for each other sincerely if you really love them, whether or not they appreciate it is a different matter entirely which you would have to think for yourself. Treating someone genuinely is probably the most amazing kind of love you can give.

" Treat others how YOU would want to be treated "

 (look at that happy face with all his candy and capt. A after his little treasure hunt during Valentine's Day!)



xx